To my Dad as we celebrate what would have been his 69th birthday Sunday 4/26.
God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be, so He put His arms around you and whispered "Come to Me". With tearful eyes we watched you, and saw you pass away. Although we loved you dearly, we could not make you stay. A Golden Heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest, God broke our hearts to prove to us He only takes the best!
There is not a day that goes by that we don't think of you and shed a tear. Life will never be the same.
Love you and miss you so much.
Thursday, April 23, 2009
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Thank You
This of course will be my final post to this blog and I am not sure where to begin.
Thank you all so much for your love and support during these past few weeks. Your visits to the hospital, cards, phone calls, emails, and comments on the obiturary. I sit here this morning not wanting to do anything but sit and stare off into space thinking of my Dad, weaping over him. I want to try to go back to when I was a kid and he would protect me from the world. Life does go on, but I want it to stop right now. Our family (my Mom, Matt, myself, Ian, my Dad's brothers and sisters, nieces, nephews, cousins, friends) we have lost a part of us. My Mom said 1/2 of herself is gone and I feel the same way.
Our family is the best family in the world and we are so blessed to have them. They have been a huge support to us and I know they are also hurting so much. Thank you to all our freinds, you also have been a big support for us. The calling hours at the funeral home, so many people attended and we enjoyed greeting each and everyone of you and hearing stories of Dad. Thank you to all who sent flowers and/or is contributing to the Susan G. Komen breast cancer research to help in finding a cure for this disease in which our lives have been impacted. My cousin, aunt and my grandmother are all survivors and we want a cure found so no woman or man is impacted by this again.
My Uncle Danny, Uncle Paul, and Uncle Tim will now take the place of my Father. Since my Father is no longer here to give me advise or keep me straight, I know I can count on them to be there for me and to provide me with strength, love, and guidance that I need. My Dad and his love will always be in my heart and I cannot wait until the day I see him again in Heaven when he can hold me and I can tell him I love him face to face.
Thank you to you all and we love you all so much.
The Ashcraft family
Thank you all so much for your love and support during these past few weeks. Your visits to the hospital, cards, phone calls, emails, and comments on the obiturary. I sit here this morning not wanting to do anything but sit and stare off into space thinking of my Dad, weaping over him. I want to try to go back to when I was a kid and he would protect me from the world. Life does go on, but I want it to stop right now. Our family (my Mom, Matt, myself, Ian, my Dad's brothers and sisters, nieces, nephews, cousins, friends) we have lost a part of us. My Mom said 1/2 of herself is gone and I feel the same way.
Our family is the best family in the world and we are so blessed to have them. They have been a huge support to us and I know they are also hurting so much. Thank you to all our freinds, you also have been a big support for us. The calling hours at the funeral home, so many people attended and we enjoyed greeting each and everyone of you and hearing stories of Dad. Thank you to all who sent flowers and/or is contributing to the Susan G. Komen breast cancer research to help in finding a cure for this disease in which our lives have been impacted. My cousin, aunt and my grandmother are all survivors and we want a cure found so no woman or man is impacted by this again.
My Uncle Danny, Uncle Paul, and Uncle Tim will now take the place of my Father. Since my Father is no longer here to give me advise or keep me straight, I know I can count on them to be there for me and to provide me with strength, love, and guidance that I need. My Dad and his love will always be in my heart and I cannot wait until the day I see him again in Heaven when he can hold me and I can tell him I love him face to face.
Thank you to you all and we love you all so much.
The Ashcraft family
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Funeral for Dad
Funeral Arrangements:
Calling Hours will be at Bucker & Kishler Funeral Home
985 North 21st St
Newark, OH 43055
Tues 2-4 and 6-8
Funeral will be at Community Wesleyan Church
161 Myrtle Ave (21st st and Myrtle Ave)
Newark, OH 43055
Wed. 11:00 a.m.
Calling Hours will be at Bucker & Kishler Funeral Home
985 North 21st St
Newark, OH 43055
Tues 2-4 and 6-8
Funeral will be at Community Wesleyan Church
161 Myrtle Ave (21st st and Myrtle Ave)
Newark, OH 43055
Wed. 11:00 a.m.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Our Sadness
To all our loved ones,
Our lives forever changed tonight at 10:20 p.m. when my Father passed away and went home to be with the Lord. It was a difficult day for our entire family and the next few day's/weeks/months/years will be extremely hard. We were so blessed to have all our family and special friends with us during the entire day..... we could not have gotten through this day without you all.
I will love you forever Dad.
We will post funeral arrangements once we have them finalized.
Our lives forever changed tonight at 10:20 p.m. when my Father passed away and went home to be with the Lord. It was a difficult day for our entire family and the next few day's/weeks/months/years will be extremely hard. We were so blessed to have all our family and special friends with us during the entire day..... we could not have gotten through this day without you all.
I will love you forever Dad.
We will post funeral arrangements once we have them finalized.
Friday, January 16, 2009
Letter to my Father
To my Dear Dad,
Tomorrow we will have to say good bye to you here on this earth. I know I may not have said it enough that I love you, but I also did not think you would be taken from us so soon. You were so rich in life and you gave so much love. I am so proud of you and Thank God every day for giving me to you and Mom. You and Mom have loved and protected me, and taught me the values in life. You have always been my idol and hero and I can only hope to be half the man that you are..... I was taught by the best. We have shed so many tears the past few weeks and we have shared so many stories about you. You did so much good and would help anyone out. You are a very forgiving man and your heart is made of gold. Don't worry about us we will be okay and Matt and I will take care of Mom. You and Mom have been married for over 44 yrs and this will be a big adjustments for her and she will miss you so much. She, Matt and I sat in your bedroom tonight and cried together. I don't think you realized how many people love you. I can tell you that you are a very loved man with so many wonderful family and friends. Mike Solis told Mom and I tonight, as he was driving us home, with tears in his eyes that you are a second Father to him and he will miss you and his conversations with you. Although it is so hard to say good bye and let you go I know I must for I don't want you to suffer any longer. Grandma and Grandpa will be there to meet you. There will be others there to greet you like Kathi, Lisa & Laura, Aunt Norma, Aunt Micki, Aunt Ida, and Uncle Willy and all our other family members gone on. Best of all you get to be with Jesus and will become our special Angel.
With the tears flowing in my eyes and our hearts aching for you I will tell you again........ Dad I LOVE you so much and Thank You for being my Dad.
Your Son,
Perry
Thank you to everyone for sharing in this blog. It has been a wonderful communication piece the past few weeks in sharing the updates on Dad. I have also found it a way to talk of how wonderful my Dad is and share a few stories. Thanks for allowing us to be part of your lives and allowing us into your hearts. Tomorrow will be the hardest day of our lives, please keep us in your prayers and thoughts at 11:00 a.m. Once we complete the funeral arrangements they will posted on this blog.
Tomorrow we will have to say good bye to you here on this earth. I know I may not have said it enough that I love you, but I also did not think you would be taken from us so soon. You were so rich in life and you gave so much love. I am so proud of you and Thank God every day for giving me to you and Mom. You and Mom have loved and protected me, and taught me the values in life. You have always been my idol and hero and I can only hope to be half the man that you are..... I was taught by the best. We have shed so many tears the past few weeks and we have shared so many stories about you. You did so much good and would help anyone out. You are a very forgiving man and your heart is made of gold. Don't worry about us we will be okay and Matt and I will take care of Mom. You and Mom have been married for over 44 yrs and this will be a big adjustments for her and she will miss you so much. She, Matt and I sat in your bedroom tonight and cried together. I don't think you realized how many people love you. I can tell you that you are a very loved man with so many wonderful family and friends. Mike Solis told Mom and I tonight, as he was driving us home, with tears in his eyes that you are a second Father to him and he will miss you and his conversations with you. Although it is so hard to say good bye and let you go I know I must for I don't want you to suffer any longer. Grandma and Grandpa will be there to meet you. There will be others there to greet you like Kathi, Lisa & Laura, Aunt Norma, Aunt Micki, Aunt Ida, and Uncle Willy and all our other family members gone on. Best of all you get to be with Jesus and will become our special Angel.
With the tears flowing in my eyes and our hearts aching for you I will tell you again........ Dad I LOVE you so much and Thank You for being my Dad.
Your Son,
Perry
Thank you to everyone for sharing in this blog. It has been a wonderful communication piece the past few weeks in sharing the updates on Dad. I have also found it a way to talk of how wonderful my Dad is and share a few stories. Thanks for allowing us to be part of your lives and allowing us into your hearts. Tomorrow will be the hardest day of our lives, please keep us in your prayers and thoughts at 11:00 a.m. Once we complete the funeral arrangements they will posted on this blog.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
We met with the Dr's this afternoon. We sit here with tears in our eyes in so much pain tonight knowing that we will be removing my Dad from life support on Saturday. My Dad's brothers Danny and Paul, my Aunt Diane and cousin Danell are coming from North Carolina tomorrow. My Dad's sister Faith will be coming in from Dayton and his other sister Linda lives in Newark. We will not remove him until Sat. to give our family time to arrive here to spend time with him and we will have to say our good bye's Sat.
The Dr's told us that due to his condition he would never breath on his own again. He would need to be on a traque for the rest of his life and would have no quality of life. My Dad would not want to live like that. He enjoyed life and if he could not live then he would want to go on to be with the Lord.
Even though my Father is in a drug induced coma I spent sometime with him alone tonight talking with him telling him that Matt and I are so blessed to have him as our Father. I know I gave him and my Mom alot of grief in my younger years (you know how kids are growing up & being ADHD), but no matter what I did I knew he always loved me. He supported me in whatever I did and never judged me.... oh he gave his opinion, but whatever I decided he supported me. I know that we will have another special Angel looking over us.
Please continue to remember my Mom, my Brother, myself, my nephew, and the entire Ashcraft and Daulton family during this time.
Thank you all so much for your prayers the past couple weeks. You all are very special to us.
Phyllis, Perry, Matt, & Ian Michael
We Love you very much Dad xoxoxoxo..........................
The Dr's told us that due to his condition he would never breath on his own again. He would need to be on a traque for the rest of his life and would have no quality of life. My Dad would not want to live like that. He enjoyed life and if he could not live then he would want to go on to be with the Lord.
Even though my Father is in a drug induced coma I spent sometime with him alone tonight talking with him telling him that Matt and I are so blessed to have him as our Father. I know I gave him and my Mom alot of grief in my younger years (you know how kids are growing up & being ADHD), but no matter what I did I knew he always loved me. He supported me in whatever I did and never judged me.... oh he gave his opinion, but whatever I decided he supported me. I know that we will have another special Angel looking over us.
Please continue to remember my Mom, my Brother, myself, my nephew, and the entire Ashcraft and Daulton family during this time.
Thank you all so much for your prayers the past couple weeks. You all are very special to us.
Phyllis, Perry, Matt, & Ian Michael
We Love you very much Dad xoxoxoxo..........................
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
11:54 p.m.
No changes in Dad. Dr wants to meet with us tomorrow (1/15).
Has not been an easy day in our family. Mom is doing as well as expected. This all seems like a bad dream that we cannot wake up from. I have been remembering back to my childhood a lot today of all my wonderful memories. I remember (I think right after my brother was born), my Dad drove my Mom, my brother, and myself to Kentucky to spend a few days with my Grandparents. He was unable to stay as he had to drive back to Newark for work. I remember after he left I kept screaming "I want my Dad, I want my Dad". I knew it was only for a few day's but I was a child who did not like separation or changes and I still don't. That is what I have felt like screaming today "I want my Dad". I will be having surgery this Friday (nothing serious, just a kidney stone being blasted) and this will be the first surgery that my Dad will miss. He even showed up unexpectedly a couple years ago when I was having a toe nail removed just to be there incase I needed him. I know if he were able he would be there Friday.
We could not get through these past several weeks and what we maybe facing in the future without our family, friends, and church.
To our wonderful neighbor Mike Richert. You, Melanie, and Chandler are part of our family. Thanks for always being there to watch out for Mom and Dad and to jump in and take care of something when it needed done.....like always replacing shingles on their roof when they would blow off, haha. Dad always enjoys meeting in the yards or you coming over to chat with him. He thinks of you as a son.
Boeing co-workers - Dad's favorite place away from home. He loves working with you all. He enjoys getting up in the morning and coming to work. When he was put in Riverside on 1/2 he told me not to forget to call Dave to tell him he would not be at work.
We are praying hard for a recovery. My cousin Cassie handed me our Grandmothers cross necklas today. Dad carried it, I think, through all his past surgeries for comfort and he knew Grandma was with him and he always came through. I will take it to the hospital tomorrow and say a big prayer with it.
Has not been an easy day in our family. Mom is doing as well as expected. This all seems like a bad dream that we cannot wake up from. I have been remembering back to my childhood a lot today of all my wonderful memories. I remember (I think right after my brother was born), my Dad drove my Mom, my brother, and myself to Kentucky to spend a few days with my Grandparents. He was unable to stay as he had to drive back to Newark for work. I remember after he left I kept screaming "I want my Dad, I want my Dad". I knew it was only for a few day's but I was a child who did not like separation or changes and I still don't. That is what I have felt like screaming today "I want my Dad". I will be having surgery this Friday (nothing serious, just a kidney stone being blasted) and this will be the first surgery that my Dad will miss. He even showed up unexpectedly a couple years ago when I was having a toe nail removed just to be there incase I needed him. I know if he were able he would be there Friday.
We could not get through these past several weeks and what we maybe facing in the future without our family, friends, and church.
To our wonderful neighbor Mike Richert. You, Melanie, and Chandler are part of our family. Thanks for always being there to watch out for Mom and Dad and to jump in and take care of something when it needed done.....like always replacing shingles on their roof when they would blow off, haha. Dad always enjoys meeting in the yards or you coming over to chat with him. He thinks of you as a son.
Boeing co-workers - Dad's favorite place away from home. He loves working with you all. He enjoys getting up in the morning and coming to work. When he was put in Riverside on 1/2 he told me not to forget to call Dave to tell him he would not be at work.
We are praying hard for a recovery. My cousin Cassie handed me our Grandmothers cross necklas today. Dad carried it, I think, through all his past surgeries for comfort and he knew Grandma was with him and he always came through. I will take it to the hospital tomorrow and say a big prayer with it.
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